Right now, is a major time of change, both on the collective and personal level. Are you feeling it, I sure am! Its a time to let go of what no longer serves us and open up space for new opportunities to emerge.
I have been reflecting on what I want to let go of, and although there are a few things on my list, one of the main ones is letting go of struggle and stepping into surrender and flow. So what exactly is struggle?
Struggle, is something you are resisting in your life or something you are resisting inside of yourself. So essentially, if you are struggling with something then you are actually resisting yourself.
When I was in the depths of my struggles, I finally had a moment where I paused and reflected on what I was resisting. Shockingly to me, I was resisting my own greatness, my power, my beauty, my innate gifts and talents and ultimately SUCCESS.
When I dug deeper, I realized I had the subconscious belief that if I became my most powerful, beautiful and magnetic self then people would abandon me (this is a pattern that continually showed up with relationships in my childhood).
Once I brought those subconscious beliefs to the surfaces and processed them (which I still work on when I am triggered), I was able to start to let them go.
Once we truly let go, the struggle is released and life begins to flow.
So, the big question is: How to let go? Letting go is something that is mentioned A LOT. It sounds so easy, but its something that I have contemplated and attempted to work on for years. I feel as though, the older (and wiser) I get the easier it is for me to release control, fully let go, and surrender to what is.
Here are my tips on how to let go:
Accept where you are in the moment.
In order to accept where you are in the moment, you need to release any judgment or shame of where you are in the moment.
Have full trust that you are exactly where you need to be.
Know in your soul that the moment you are in, no matter how uncomfortable, is happening for a reason and is shaping you into the person you are meant to be.
Fully feel what you are feeling.
Don’t distract yourself or minimize your emotions. Own what you are feeling, while trusting that this is happening FOR you.
Accept, love and trust “what is”.
This does not mean becoming passive and giving up, it means having full trust that what is happening is happening FOR you, not against you. This is not easy at first, that is for sure, but it is the only way through to the other side.
When you feel like you have let go, go deeper and surrender even more.
“Don’t go into fixing mode. Trust the process and feel into what the situation really demands. Usually, it calls us to look at what we don’t want to see. However, this is where our evolution and transformation lie. Most of the time, it demands surrender, which also does not mean inaction, but rather a quality of action that arises out of trusting the moment over fighting the moment.” - Alex Cousins.
I find it easer to let go when I trust that where I am is exactly where I need to be. I don’t know the reason when I am in the moment, but whenever I look back on the past I can clearly see why I was meant to go through a certain situation or have the encounters and experiences I did then.
When life gets uncomfortable for me, I like to think of the archetype of the alchemist. Alchemists are legendary for turning lead into gold. The definition of alchemy is, “the process of taking something ordinary and turning it into something extraordinary”. If your struggling right now, this seemingly ordinary moment is molding you and transforming you, so something truly extraordinary can emerge.
“The things that break you open to your suffering is where your gold lies.” - Alex Cousins
I also like to think of the Phoenix rising from the ashes or the caterpillar turning into the butterfly. Both of those transformations are uncomfortable, but look at the beauty and strength that comes from going through such a drastic transformation.
So, next time you are in the metaphorical fire, let go of any shame and judgment of where you are. Just state it as a fact and release it. Then trust, that something – a higher power, the universe, your higher self (whatever resonates with you) - is orchestrating this moment perfectly for you’re highest and greatest good.
“Your medicine, is in the moment.” - Alex Cousins
I also like to reflect on ways in which my struggles or a difficult situation might be assisting me. I ask myself: what can I learn from this situation, what is it hear to teach me, how is this assisting me in my growth/evolution, what is it trying to show me to let go of, what am I still holding onto that does not serve me and how can I go deeper?
When I start to see things as a blessing, rather than an obstruction, its helps me to see the situation differently and more clearly. One of my favorite quotes is by Dr. Wayne Dyer, “When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change”.
A mantra I find helpful in uncertain times is, “I trust the change unfolding in my life”.
Life is always changing.
Loosen your grip and relax into it.
Only open hands can receive.
Your challenges are your initiation. Lean IN, not out. Wake up and out of the fantasies and just be with what is. Love whatever arises, it is beckoning you to go deeper. To awaken, to become your most authentic highest self and to live an amazing abundant life – that you were born worthy of.
Sometimes we have to let go in order for something new and greater to come into our lives. Trust the change unfolding in your life. Although the outcome may be unpredictable right now, when you settle in and open up to new possibilities a wondrous world begins to emerge.
And always remember to be kind to yourself during this process and have compassion for yourself and this journey you are on.
Open your hands and your heart and make space to receive. Abundance, joy, pleasure, and love are waiting for you on the other side of true surrender.
Enjoy the ride Beauties,
K